Thank you for your considered and patient response.
Just to clarify, we isnt actually a drinker. When his brother and him go out 3 times a week, its to play for a local football charity with their friends. If he goes out at the weekend with them it's usually just to one of their houses then the cinema. He is pretty tame in that regard.
The moving thing is really so strange. He has looked into countries like Spain and Italy, that have remote visas and asked if I'd consider a year or two elsewhere. Which I 100% would love. But its strange cause this is a man who does all the other things I've described. Which is why I think a part of him feels trapped by his brother and family.
The family thing has sometimes worried me. I'm from a different country entirely, where most of my family is. I have sometimes said it at times feels like he has "home game advantage"
Only one of his sisters is married thus far, and she married a man who grew up down the street and went to the same school as them. Also a practicing Catholic.
I have sometimes felt cause of this, and how involved the family are, that whoever married the boys was supposed to fit the mould they set. But they are very lovely people. But have started dropping hints about when we were going to move closer to them because of how good the schools are 😒.
I have always said I wouldn't want to be with someone for more than 5 years before an engagement. But then it feels like school has put that on hold and I have told him while I am studying is not the time. So perhaps some things I have said have put him off because I have said I need things more in order first