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I've always find that even though it is hard to make friends at times, many times it just comes naturally. I've been here at College and it was to make friends at first, but then things got better. I usually let my new friends initiate if they want to hang out, though I try to intiate things if I get the chance. Just be yourself, that is the most important thing. If your not, than your simply lying to your friends and you.

I'm doing much better, thanks. I know now that I have friends and family who will help me bear with this pain, if I ever ask. But I'm learning to cope with it and become the person I want to be. Thanks Shysoul, I'll keep that in mind. Good luck with your pain, too.

I never have had a relationship, but here's what I've learned:

-love yourself first. It is not a good idea to search for love, when you are desperate, you will only push people away. Be yourself, first.

And that's what I'm concentrating on now. Relationships can wait.

Approach this girl when you get the chance and talk to her. See if she might be interested in going out, or maybe just talk to more to see if you can get a clearer sign. Good luck.

My suggestion is maybe join a help group to boost your confidence in yourself, or maybe clubs that have something you're interested in. It's important not to give up hope, even if things seem hopeless. You may not have many friends now, but that doens't mean you won't have any in the future. I am sure you feel exhausted and think there is nothing you can do to improve yourself, or your situation, but I am there is. Think about it.

What is the class? Perhaps it's the material or the subject. Is the subject in this class not your favorite? Sometimes we get nervous when we don't know the material well, and feel we'll say something stupid. It's not embarrasing to be afraid to make mistakes in class. That's all part of the learning process. We learn by our mistakes. Maybe, study up more on the material before class so you won't be so worried and choke when it's your turn to be called.

Heck no! I have lots of friends in College who have serious relationships and people are dating all the time. Don't let stupid things like that detour you from dating at College. If anything, it's better at College. You get a better choice of whom you wish to date and more flexible time to date them. So, don't worry.

How long have you two know each other? I don't think it's too sudden, if he asks you out of the blue. You weren't ready yet. When you feel you are, then you should confess you feelings and only then. Has he shown any signs he's interested? Does he get really excited or turn away when he sees you? I'm sure your chances aren't ruined for good.

Well I decided to write how I feel, for venting purposes. Enjoy.

Vanish by Alabama

Sometimes, I just want to disappear

I want to leave this world

I wish to go somewhere else

Just somewhere I can think

Since the world is getting too complex

Life isn't fun anymore

Things are confusing

But I'm still me, right?

But nonetheless I shall go on

No matter how bad things get

I will never give up

Or run away, to the nearest exit

Yet some days are troublesome

They are tiring, indeed

And these days I wish to vanish

To go somewhere for months or years

But somehow I am still me

Somehow I am still here

I have the strength I suppose

Is it me, or something else?

I contemplate and let things be

Time heals all wounds

Life gets better, don't you see?

But we have to fight for that

Those times I wish to leave

Those times I wish to disappear

Will never go away

But I'll fight, to truly stay

Rather interesting. Though I'm not surprised science has explained love as simply a reward/punishment system, it still is a pretty strong emotion.

You could just tell you want to be friends, or maybe the truth. If you don't want to date him, than tell him so. Sure his heart will be crushed, but he'll recover. Good luck.

Hey, join the club! Anyway, I also recently started on a personal journey to find out who I am. I suggest think about what makes you interested, and then go from there. It's best to do something you enjoy doing. Don't worry about finding love now, you're still pretty young. It'll come when you least expect it; trust me.

You've made it clear to him that you just wants to friends, and that's okay. I have plenty of girls are just friends. Nothing more. If he can't accept the fact that you don't want to be his girlfriend, than that's his problem. Good luck!

Thank you all. I shall bear with my pain, since in time, it get easier to bear. But life goes on and I shall go on with it.

For the past few days I have been going through a severe depression. It hasn't hampered my life yet, but it almost did today. I made a rather crude remark on the Valentine's day post, but am glad it was deleted. For the past few years I've masked my pain. But it always comes back. I love being single, but the pain of not finding anyone, is excrutaiting to me. There have been people who have liked me, but I haven't been interested in them. It hurts not having my love returned. Life is funny like that...

The way I see you just wanted some place. You wanted change. You and your friend had been going to the same place for a long time and you just wanted a different restaurant. I wouldn't place the blame on all you, but your friend should have at least been open to discussing a new restuarant. Since the two of you haven't talked, then nothing has been done to work out this problem. I know you're still mad at your friend, but call her. Try to work something out. You shouldn't let something this simple ruin your friendship of 6 years. Be strong.

And what Valentine's day is bad? I'm single and I don't look at it as bad. I'm happy for all the couples. I hope they have a happy romantic day.

It's obvious that he is interested, but he must be too nervous to call you. I've had this feeling plenty of times when I have wanted to call a girl I liked, but was too nervous to call her. So, even though it may seem annoying, I suggest you make the next move. See if he wants to go on a date. Because due to his shyness, it might be a long time before he finally calls you.

Whenever you do get the chance, yes ask her to hang out with you. You'll be glad you did. Good luck.

You want the truth? You can't. I started looking for love a few years back and couldn't find anyone. Then I stopped, and then it came to me. But I had just gone through the pain of searching and wasn't ready for it yet. So, I didn't take it. Now I wonder if that was the right choice. But I figure I'm still young and I have a chance. If it doens't come again, then at least I had the chance.

Keep it up Shy. I am sure you have been great inspiration for many people here. You have remained strong and by still being here, even after all you've gone through, your still going strong. So never give up. As you have stated, there is always hope. So always believe. You'll find the happiness you seek. I am sure of it.

There are times in our life when things just don't go our way. Thus we want to give up adn think that the world will be indifferent. But that is true of anyone, yet we nonetheless must not give up. We exist in this world and can still live a good life. I am sure that one day you may find someone else you care for. It seems that you want to accept you are friends with this girl, but still play a major role in her life. That is for her to decide if she wants you still to be a big influence. Think things over. You can still mend things with her and go on in life. Life isn't over.

It's taking me a long time it seems. I spent my whole senior year developing who I was and then preparing for College. I was blown back last semester, because I was trying just to concentrate on my studies and not worrying about anything else. But over winter break, I had a sense of change. I realized if I wanted to survive in this world and have an attempt at succeeding, I would need to live in it. Thus I have finally decided to get more involved in social activities and talk with random strangers and make more friends. Any advice?

Even though this guy says he just wants to remain friends, he's just in denial. He does want a relationship it sounds like, and he wants to be more than just friends. But he is holding himself back a little, and trying not openly admit it. Even though he is texting you and as you said, talking about the future together. If you just want to remain friends and not have a relationship, I suggest just to have a talk with him.

You like her and she likes you. But you're being to hesitant about really showing your feelings for her. I suggest maybe not thinking and trying to go for it. Just go for it!