Now more than ever, we rely heavily on what we say to show others who we are and how we feel. Classy people recognize the power of words and adopt a conscious attitude towards their communication. In any type of relationship, be it familial, romantic or platonic, being aware of the words we choose will avoid any possible hurt or misunderstanding.
Choosing your words carefully is especially important in a romantic relationship. We can express the same sentiment using two different words, and the wrong word could cause a storm between lovers. Instead of using acidic descriptions like "stupid" or something equally vilifying, try expanding your vocabulary to a more sensitive array of adjectives. A few synonyms for "stupid" are foolish, ridiculous, unreasonable and silly, all of which are far less likely to upset your partner than the above.
Refrain from mentioning past relationships. This is never a topic of conversation that should be brought up with a partner, no matter what the conversation. Bringing up someone's past implies distrust and unhappiness in the present. It might even lead to arguments and resentment in the future.
Mind your tone when speaking to your partner, especially in delicate situations. Kindness displays maturity, understanding and respect. We may have different opinions, but there is no reason why discussing them must turn into an argument. Respectful conversations, accompanied with an open mind, often lead to a win-win conclusion.
Another common fault among couples is demanding or expecting attention. An atmosphere of relying upon someone else for love, affection and/or validation will only spark frustration. Often, these demands are not explicitly expressed and yet can still create a tension between lovebirds. Instead, try to fill the gap in your heart by pursuing activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Commonly, people come up with terms of endearment for those they love, such as “honey”, “sweetheart”, even “babe”. While these terms usually come from a place of love, they could cause discomfort among classy people. Rather than blatantly expressing affection, classy folks will indulge in subtle moves of appreciation such as sharing this special meal they cooked, or giving a tight squeeze to their beloved’s hand in public without saying a word.
When it comes to criticizing someone, fabulous people always remember to practice tact. Criticism that is too personal often makes the other person feel small and powerless. Classy people understand this implicitly, so they will choose words that support personal responsibility yet remain respectful. Phrases such as “I don’t think that was the most prudent choice,” rather than blaming someone specifically, will be much easier to hear with no resentment created.
The moral of the story: Being conscious of what you say, both in words and tone, will ensure that the relationship you have with your partner is always respectful, healthy and understanding. Refraining from what some may consider minor issues such as the phrases mentioned earlier will create an atmosphere of goodwill and allow both of you to nurture positive feelings between each other.
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