Nobody likes to be wrong. We all strive to do everything perfectly, but it is a near impossible feat since we are all human and capable of error. Despite this common knowledge, many of us still have difficulty acknowledging our faults – including our partners. For boyfriends especially, it can be difficult for them to admit when they’ve made a mistake.
Though sometimes this may seem like an annoying and stubborn trait, there may actually be a scientific reason behind why your boyfriend won’t admit when he’s wrong. It’s known as Cognitive Dissonance Theory and it goes like this: When people are presented with information that contradicts their own beliefs, they experience a form of dissonance (or uneasiness caused by inconsistency). So if your man is convinced of his 'rightness’, he will struggle to accept contradictory points of view and end up clinging to his original beliefs.
This can be quite a hindrance in relationships, as it prevents the couple from having open and honest conversations, which are integral to maintaining a healthy relationship. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to stay communicative and make your significant other more likely to acknowledge when they were wrong.
It can be beneficial to present facts in a neutral way instead of automatically accusing your partner of being wrong. Say something like “I understand where you’re coming from, but here are some facts that suggest otherwise.” This can help keep your conversation peaceful and less confrontational. Or, if he’s particularly stubborn, try to humor him and make light of the situation instead. A bit of laughter can make it easier for him to relax and be more open-minded.
Another good idea is to brainstorm solutions together in order to reach a mutual agreement. Breaking a problem into smaller sections provides a manageable process for working out the kinks. It also allows you to approach it from both sides, which makes it easier for your partner to acknowledge their part in it.
Finally, try to provide positive reinforcement whenever your partner does admit their error. This shows him that recognizing one’s mistakes isn’t a bad thing and giving him a pat on the back will make it easier to do so again in the future.
Although it can be work trying to convince your partner that they were wrong, it’s important to remember that being wrong is no big deal; Everyone makes mistakes, and it is important that we take responsibility for them so that we can continue to grow and improve.
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