No matter how strong our relationship is, it’s expected to pass through hard moments throughout the course of life. When those hit, we naturally start experiencing a range of emotions - confusion, frustration, anxiety and so forth. After all, it’s something challenging to tread paths between trying to solve a conflict, understand one’s partner’s intention and maintain trust especially when some deception is involved. And it might feel like life doesn’t give us an answer on what will be the best choice to make in this situation.
The first step is to combat our tendency for immediate reactions and impulses. Going silent, avoiding conversations and pushing our partners away can make things worse. What we should do instead is to remain open, honest and patient. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary to communicate how we feel. Though it might be daunting, it’s important to speak out about everything that bothers us. We must cut our ego out of the game and the aim should be to reach an understanding, not to win an argument. Despite the fact that it will be hard, confronting our partner can ensure that the both parties get through that challenging situation eventually. And even if things don’t end up working out as you wanted, it’s at least comforting that you have adult-like talked out mutual disagreements.
It can also help to address any external issues that sometimes trigger negative emotions in our partner and ourselves. Finding solutions to such occurrences can be quite difficult, so seeking advice from a trusted family member or a mental health professional could be a great idea. After we have enough information, we should think on our own. Setting up obtainable goals one at a time and trusting our own voices helps taking control of our own lives and makes more sense since only we truly know what we want.
When trying to take a decision on whether to continue the relationship or not, it’s important to consider some aspects that define it. Many of us already know deep down if there’s something we value in the relationship or whether the connection has some root in a toxic behavior in itself. Analyzing our routines and encounters: how often do we experience positive feelings, how much we disagree, where we look for more common facts, what signs of trust we share, etc, can help to form a logical viewpoint. Taking distance to better reflect on it is worthwhile.
Though sometimes it might appear like an impossible task, it’s worth trying to keep communication up and still see the beauty in being alone. That way, we will be able to provide a solid perspective, clear thoughts and see in which direction we actually head with our partner.
Given the arduous task of coming out the other side when struggling through their relationship with a partner, it helps to remain open, honest and patient while addressing issues, cutting our ego out of the game, seeking guidance when needed and taking time to reflect.
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