It's so easy to fall in love, but that doesn't always mean it's meant to be. You're not alone if you find yourself loving someone who is just a friend; it happens frequently and can be particularly confusing.
You love your friend’s girlfriend, and you don’t know what to do. Do you tell him the truth? Do you attempt to act “normal” and keep your feelings a secret? Do you pursue your emotions and try to become more than friends?
These are all questions that need to be considered. But before taking any actions, it’s important to assess why you have these feelings. Are they fleeting, or do you truly have strong feelings for her? If these feelings tend to come and go, then it may be best to push them down and carry on with your normal routine. There is no need to further complicate an already complicated relationship.
On the other hand, if you find these feelings increasing, it may be time to consider expressing them. But this isn’t an easy decision. Not only are you risking your friendship with your pal, but you’re also risking your health and well being. Taking a leap of faith without knowing how someone else feels can be damaging, and that’s something to take into account when defining if you should communicate your feelings or not.
If you decide to go ahead, you’ll need to be prepared to endure some potentially difficult conversations. It’s important to remember that communication is key to a healthy relationship, no matter the stage. Also try to direct all your focuses onto her instead of your friend, as you don’t want to make it too awkward or misplaced. This is about understanding what makes her who she is and what interests her.
There will also come a time in which you need to evaluate your actions afterward. If it turns out that she does not feel the same way, you’ll have to be understanding and compassionate. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to break off your relationship with your friend, instead just be honest and understanding. If things do happen to move forward, make sure that your friendship remains intact and that you’re not too complacent about the situation.
Love can be a powerful yet complex emotion and often comes when it's least expected. You cannot force someone to love you or want a relationship with you and you must remember that it is never completely within your control as to where your heart may wander. Unrequited love leaves us feeling helpless and lost, but recognizing and accepting these feelings is the first step toward finding satisfaction. If you can recognize and understand what attracts you to this person and work through those emotions in a respectful way, it might bring the peace and assurance you’ve been searching for.
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