"My GF's feelings changed" is not a situation any of us ever expects to find outselves in. You may have started down this road with a full head of steam, but now you find yourself wondering what went wrong and what you can do to fix it. Knowing how to deal with the situation when your girlfriend's feelings start to waver is complicated and requires a thoughtful approach to avoid any misunderstandings.
When your girlfriend's feelings about you or the relationship suddenly change, there are a few important steps you should take. The first step is to practice patience and tolerance. As much as you may want to quickly figure out what has gone wrong, trying to force the issue often does more harm than good. Instead, focus on establishing an atmosphere of understanding and acceptance. Let your girlfriend know that it's okay if she isn't feeling certain emotions; reassure her that it’s perfectly normal to go through various stages.
It's equally important to try to pinpoint when you observe the change in your girlfriend's feelings. A woman's feelings often ebb and flow with the changing of the tides, so it's essential to understand why her feelings have shifted in the first place. Never jump to the conclusion that it’s anything you have said or done; instead, take some time to consider what might have caused the change. It may be something happening in your girlfriend's life outside of your relationship that has caused her feelings to alter.
Once you have given each other space and established a non-confrontational atmosphere, it’s time to open the lines of communication. Talk honestly about what you both want and need from the relationship, and discuss what you are both willing to accept. This can be a difficult thing to do, but without a frank exchange of opinions, neither of you will know what the other is feeling.
When you talk, stay focused on each other's behaviour rather than simply pointing out one another's flaws. Give your girlfriend the love and reassurance that she needs in order to rekindle her feelings for you. Respect her decisions and remain calm. Allow your girlfriend to take the lead, and don't push or pressure her into anything. Although this is a crucial conversation, it's also vital to remember that it can be an opportunity to cement the bond between the two of you. Be prepared to make compromises and to explore areas where the two of you might disagree.
Radical changes in feelings like these can test even the strongest relationships, so it’s important to try to understand each other’s viewpoint and determine what can be done to make the process easier. Talk through any issues calmly, compromise where possible, and try to seek solutions instead of adding yet more complications. If you manage to keep the conversations positive, you may end up closer than ever before. If not, at least you will have been honest and open with each other.
You cannot make someone love you, no matter how hard you try. Your girlfriend's feelings are her own unique experience and you need to respect her feelings before you can hope to move forward together. So treat this as an opportunity to develop a healthier, stronger relationship and remember that while the situation may change, your feelings for your girlfriend never should.
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