When it comes to relationships, especially with someone we're close to, it can be tough figuring out their odd behavior. It's easy to feel flustered and confused when they start acting differently, leaving us to guess what their motives are or why they're doing what they're doing.
Recently, a poster on Enotalone had this very same issue. With their partner, they were having difficulty understanding why he had gone from being physically and verbally passionate, to seeming disconnected and blowing them off all-of-a-sudden. The poster asked others for advice in navigating such an unexpectedly strange situation.
In these kinds of confounding and perplexing situations, it’s essential to try and get down to the root of the problem. If we let our speculation run rampant and pessimism take control of our thoughts, it can lead us in the wrong direction and bring about even more misunderstanding. As hard as it might seem, we have to remember that each situation needs our thoughtful attention and intentional consideration to get the best results possible.
When it comes to addressing matters such as these, communication must assume a leading role. Consistent and sincere dialogue is throughout necessary to genuinely bond with someone and come to accept their tendencies as well as ourselves. From here, understanding can develop and it helps provide better insight into what one another can do. Initiating candid conversations with listening ears can open anyone up to new perspectives and points-of-view they hadn't originally considered.
It’s paramount to keep the focus on positive reinforcement and all-inclusive understanding during those interactions, though. Understanding isn't assuming, it's inquiring in order to seek deeper rationale and gain knowledge. We must set aside ego and remember that everyone has their own story, quirks, and ways-of-being. Therefore, arguments based on personal opinions might be emotionally destructive if cared for too much.
Sometimes, restorative conversations aren't enough and other measures have to be taken. Knowing when it’s time for both parties involved to take a step back and assess their feelings against those of the other person is a difficult thing to recognize and even harder to apply. We need to honestly reflect on where our actions might be having negative effects and implications on other people in order to grow and improve with our romantic relationships.
With understanding and empathy at the roots of our decision making, we can make sure that what we want and how we think should be done align with how the other person is making them feel. We must remember that, when stretched beyond limits, even the strongest of embraces can become suffocating. Therefore, it's important to exercise respect and consent in the most delicate of times.
Then and only then, we can find effective solutions that keep us and those around us safe, secure and content.
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