According to the post, there is a situation where a woman has been married and together with her husband for five years but recently found out that he has been using prostitutes for five years before he met her. To make matters worse, this woman does not know what to do or how to approach the topic.
It can be quite overwhelming and disheartening to find out that someone you love, have trusted and invested your time, energy and heart into has been deceitful. It affects you to such a great extent that you might feel like you can’t move forward and hold onto the relationship any longer.
So if you’re in the situation that this post describes, it is completely natural to feel hurt, shocked and betrayed. The question is that how do you proceed from here?
Firstly, take some time to let it sink in and allow yourself to process the hurt that you may be feeling. This is usually done by finding the right balance between compassion towards yourself and objectivity towards the other person. It’s essential to hold both perspectives- these don’t contradict each other. There isn’t one right way to respond and of course, each couple is different.
Perhaps after some time apart, if you still want to move past this, you could decide to discuss openly your thoughts and feelings. You may also want to express your expectations for the future of your relationship and the need for fidelity and respect. This can be scary and look daunting but having a honest conversation is absolutely beneficial. It’s important for the partner to understand that their previous behaviour is unacceptable and not ‘normal’.
Also It’s not just up to the partner either, it’s up to you as well to have an open heart and an open mind, so that you can both work through this delicate matter. Most importantly, communicate openly and come up with methods and plans on how to reignite trust within the relationship.
Additionally, consider seeking professional help such as couples counselling. Having a neutral third party to talk to can be greatly beneficial, someone who can offer sound advice in the midst of a difficult situation. A counsellor can provide valuable insights and create a platform for both parties to learn healthier ways to communicate.
Moving forward also requires a willingness to forgive and creating a true willingness to move forward and healing both partners. It may take time but ultimately, creating and sustaining a loving and healthy relationship is always a two-way street.
Take your time, be kind to yourself, process at your own pace and search for the help you need – learning to cope and work through this difficult situation.
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