Life is like a messy house - you can either clean it up or let the clutter build. Similarly, in a relationship you can either choose to stay the same, or strive to grow up and become more mature. Unwillingness to grow up emotionally leads to a relationship that's shallow, immature and unsatisfying. To truly love and be loved means you must be willing to grow up, both on your own and together with your partner.
Take a good look inside yourself and recognize that it's time to let go of old habits that are keeping you stuck in an emotional tailspin. If you cling onto who you were before, rather than prioritize growth with your partner, the relationship will become stagnant, causing unrest and distance between the two of you.
Your partner may not initially ask you to grow up emotionally, but if you don't show them that you are progressing and evolving, then chances are they will stop expecting it from you. If no one believes something is possible, then it ceases to exist—so don't take for granted that you have a partner who's continually rooting for growth in the relationship. Show them that you are making an effort to be a better version of yourself, so they keep investing in you and in the relationship.
Life and all its relationships inherently require change –the relationship where both partners remain stagnant will only lead to resentment and dissatisfaction. Commitment requires an active interest in becoming better through self-compassion and open communication. Being wildly attracted to someone is one thing; but having a healthy relation based on trust and love is another. Even if your partner is unconditionally delightful, if they are psychologically unresponsive or unaware of their own emotions and how those feelings impact how they treat the people around them then it will likely be unlikely for the relationship to grow beyond surface level.
If you let yourself or your partner to remain immature in your relationship then there is no progress . You'll be stuck at a level of understanding that won't allow your life, your passion or your love to reach a full circle but rather exist as incomplete circles. In order for a relationship to survive it needs for two mature partners that take responsibility for their own mistakes and actively seek growth as individuals and together as a happy couple.
With maturity comes knowledge; so work together, create your realm of security, learn to listen deeply and transform pain into understanding. Remember that growing up means taking risks and facing uncomfortable thoughts, beliefs and emotions so you'll both have to be vulnerable enough to have your hearts broken in order for love to blossom. As humans we endlessly repeat behaviors because we fail to learn from our mistakes. So embrace growing pains—they just might lead you right into the presence of true love.
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