The question of whether and how to reconcile a partner's drastic weight gain can be a difficult one. Every couple is unique, and the answers may often depend on individual personalities, paths, and goals within the relationship.
For those in a committed relationship, the seemingly sudden change in body shape of either party can be shocking. But taking a step back and understanding the issue holistically may provide some much-needed context and peace of mind.
Shifting dynamics are natural in relationships, but it is important to note that your partner's shifting appearance doesn't mean that the relationship is automatically in a dangerous spot. Growing together doesn't mean always staying the same - in fact, it's quite to the contrary. That being said, unhealthy weight gain isn't always caused by a healthy, happy partnership. It could involve issues from unresolved stress in the relationship, apathy about diet, or underlying mental health issues.
It is key for both partners to fulfill their needs, especially the need for companionship, security, and safety. This all starts with communication. It can be hard, but frame the conversation as one between partners in love, rather than focusing on criticism and failure. Open dialogue and listening can help identify the underlying triggers if any exist, and also help both parties to understand and provide helpful solutions, if applicable.
When easing into this conversation, a few key topics can be addressed. First, don't forget to talk about how your partner's lifestyle makes you feel, in addition to how it is affecting them physically/mentally/etc. Believe it or not, your own feelings matter too, so don't be afraid to articulate them. Note that criticism should be avoided, since it can come off as condescending and make the other person feel even worse.
Second, make mutual decisions on what kind of changes need to take place. Many people feel the pressure to reach an ideal type, or to live according to somebody else's expectations. Remember, healthy and sustainable change can only come from within your partner. Be supportive and clear-headed, but never force them or dictate the process entirely.
Third, remember that every partner experience weight gain differently. One size does not fit all in addressing this issue. Take into account any cultural or societal factors that may contribute, but don't become obsessed with the myriad of possible explanations for their new shape. Concentrate your energy on making sure that your partner feels supported and heard regardless of the cause.
It is important to remember that everyone's body is different, and that means each and every individuals perception of weight gain and its handling needs to be respected. Live in the moment and appreciate the fullness of life, instead of seeing it through a lens coated in unfounded fears, largely propagated by the media.
Reconciling such drastic changes in a loved one's body is not easy, but it can ultimately open the doors to a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you. Embrace the unique circumstances of the situation, because it can help foster a richer, more fulfilling relationship.
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