Whether or not we want to admit it, we all have a special place in our mind and heart for our first true love. It’s that memory, person, and experience that stays with us no matter what age – even into our later years when reminiscing of the past.
For some, struggling to recall the details of the shared experience isn’t a problem; for others, the remembrance fails to evoke any emotions. If you’re one of those people who longs to feel connected to the memory of your first real love, you’re on the right track.
Going back to that innocent moment can be difficult, especially if it’s been a while. Nevertheless, your feelings are valid and exercising a few strategies can help bring back the vibrancy of that period.
Be Yourself
In order to rekindle those sparkly moments from the past, you have to know who you are first. If a relationship was built off a fake persona, feeling connected with it may be more of a challenge in the present. Make sure you have values, ideas, and beliefs that reflect who you are as a person now. This lets you honestly reflect on the past and even allow for change if needed.
Don’t Force Anything
Rather than putting excessive pressure on yourself to remember, seek honesty from within and let the reflections flow when they come. If finding the answer continues to elude you, try other methods such as reading the past love’s note, looking at old photos, or any other activities that evoke nostalgia.
As stressful as it might feel, letting go of expectations can provide great ingredients toward recalling those moments of being with the first real love.
Set Aside Time
Finding the right time and place is important – less distraction and more peace are ideal. Set aside a certain duration that you're comfortable with, allowing yourself to sink into the moment and really reflect. A quiet place whether nature or home should do the trick. Make sure to have something to write with in case inspiration strikes!
If distractions take over, then don’t worry about it. Life is chaotic and leaving a space to daydream may just be the thing to get your thoughts back on the love from before.
Be Open-Minded
No matter where you are in life, different things that are no longer relevant may once again become valuable. As memories from your first true love resurface, be open to the ever-changing perspective that may come along with revealed aspects of the relationship.
Part of this step can include reflecting on what you’ve learned since that time and how those things might shape who you are today. It could also influence you to bring something new to the table.
Your first true love is special, no doubt, and there may be so much left to be rediscovered. Is it necessary to remember those moments to enjoy the present? Absolutely not. Even if the recollection process is completely avoided, that doesn’t take away from its importance.
Feeling disconnected from the familiarity of those events just means that it’s time you give it a new chance. Taking your time to remember the unique connection can be both insightful and rewarding. So, go ahead and make the plunge – rip off the band aid and revel in the memories.
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