When a romantic relationship has ended, it might feel as if all hope is lost. Yet relationships, like people, can weather tough times and come out stronger. So how do you get your partner back? By following these tips:
1. Get Clear On What You Want
Before you can realistically expect to rekindle the spark with your former partner, you have to figure out the relationship you need now. What did you learn from the breakup? What do you want in your relationship going forward? Take time to reflect on these questions and then outline your expectations for a healthier future relationship.
2. Communicate Respectfully
Once you’ve gotten to a place of clarity around your needs and wants in the relationship, it’s time to communicate them to your former partner. It’s important that you communicate respectfully, without coming across as demanding or blaming. When you’re communicating to your former partner about a reconciliation, focus on talking about what you need in order to make it work, rather than attempting to assign responsibility for the past breakup.
3. Foster Constructive Dialogue
Once you’ve identified your needs, it’s time to open up a dialogue with your former partner. Ask yourself, what would a constructive conversation look like between the two of you? What topics should you avoid, if any? Additionally, don’t be afraid to talk to each other about what’s hard – you may be surprised how understanding and open your former partner actually is.
4. Take Time To Rekindle the Spark
Reconnecting with your former partner can take time, so be patient with yourself and with each other. During this process, prioritize comfort and understanding over performance and perfection. Also, find ways to nurture and appreciate the relationship each day – share compliments and meaningful conversations, momentary affection and genuine appreciation.
5. Make Space For Yourself
It’s important to stay intentional about making time for yourself amidst the exhausting process of reconciling with your partner. Ensuring that you are taking time for self care, reflection and leisure will aid in cultivating resilience, patience and understanding.
6. Seek Professional Help
If you’re feeling like you’ve done everything you can to rekindle the spark with your former partner, but it just isn’t “clicking”, a professional couples therapist might be able to provide insight into patterns that are obstructing progress. This might help create a safe space for meaningful conversation and repair.
You may have spent a long time trying to win back your former partner and it might be hard to accept that the relationship isn’t meant to be. But by being respectful and honest with yourself and with your former partner throughout the process, you can help lay the foundations for a healthier future. No matter the outcome, it's important to cherish the lessons learned that will help guide you towards fulfilling relationships in the future.
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