Love can be a tricky emotion. We often have to take a step back, take a few deep breaths and look at the bigger picture. That’s especially true when it comes to keeping that special spark alive within long term relationships or marriage. While it’s easy to blame declining enthusiasm for sex in our couplings on the typical notion that “the honeymoon period” must have come to an end, it turns out there are other factors at play that can keep us from desperately trying to stuff the ever-widening gap between us and our partner.
The better way of maintaining intimacy is rediscovering how to date each other. The ultimate objective is remembering how to look each other in the eye and feel that initial spark that drew you together in the first place. A powerful form of doing this is looking at things through a different lens and taking a chance to reignite the love and flame.
Self discovery and breaking free of the same routine over and over again is paramount to achieving a successful bond. You need to remember that there is no shortage of moments to express your feelings in another way. Perhaps visiting unfamiliar places or attractions that neither of you has been to before could work wonders in deepening your connection. It could also encourage feeling excited all over again, due to the presence of something new.
Continual communication is key in propelling forward with trust and respect. Don’t be afraid to get vulnerable and dive deep into meaningful discussion. Allow yourselves the time to converse with no distractions whatsoever. A great exercise to practice is verbalizing your appreciation for one another without going specific on details (e.g. tell them what it means to have them in your life).
Reimagining yourself as a courting couple can open up the heart to a new kind of love, while marvelling at the journey you’ve been through together. When we are completely distracted by all other aspects that life throws our way, it becomes easier to neglect those we are closest with. Try periodically putting yourselves first, and slow down to take a moment and whisper sweet nothings that flutter in the air like petals.
Creating opportunities to act spontaneously and treat your other half to a special surprise will always add that much needed fire to the flame. Think out of the box and surprise your loved one with an experience they never had before. It can range from something simple as gifting a bouquet of their favourite flowers or escaping for a weekend getaway in the middle of nowhere.
In beginning the process of rediscovering each other, the infatuation should return naturally, once the awkwardness melts away. Don’t be afraid to break from mundane schedules and routines; instead, look for moments of bliss to enjoy. When times become heavy, think of little ways to bring joy into it, from sipping coffee intertwined on the couch, to cooking a meal together and laughing about silly anecdotes.
Many physical relations fail due to a lack of effort and initiative on both parties involved. The above steps taken to get close again can reveal how the former glows inside the heart so that sparks fly and the gifts of lust and love blend in perfectly.
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