No matter if you're single or already in a relationship, it's always hard when a new romantic potential presents itself. It makes you question so many things: Is this the one I really want? Am I ready for a serious commitment? Am I just settling for happiness on the surface level? One of the best pieces of advice when evaluating a new potential significant other is to understand all sides of that person—the positive and the negative. More often than not, there are major differences between our perception of someone new and the reality of that someone, and crumpling expectations can be worse than no expectation at all.
It can feel like an overwhelming decision to make. To stay or to go? Giving up on a new relationship may seem like giving up on love altogether, and starting over may feel like a lethargic process. In either case, it’s important to recognize where you stand within yourself; the decision to move forward comfortably must come from you. Building an honest relationship with yourself before committing to something with another is an imperative lesson. And when and if that moment arrives, you will know without a doubt when and if it’s time to say goodbye.
Before you fall head first into a potential relationship, take a step back and look at it from all angles. Evaluate what you need and want vs. what you may be interested in for the sake of enjoying some company. Assess the individual qualities of the significant other and whether or not they are aligned with your own moral compass. Remember that a relationship means compromise and can take an inconsistent amount of effort from each person. Will there be effort from both perspectives or might it be unbalanced?
Looking deeper, ask yourself if you can see yourself in this relationship in the long-term or if it’s merely a short-term situation? What is it that triggers the connection within you and sets off a fire inside your heart? Does this person challenge you to be a better version of yourself, or do they give in to your every demand? Is it admiration or dependency that is driving your emotions? Are you willing to put in the work to make changes if compromises aren’t being made?
These questions are vital to answering your initial query. They may lead you to bitter words or make you gush with endearment. No matter the conclusion, it will provide clarity and make it easier to lean towards an optimistic outcome.
At the same time, it’s essential to keep in mind that no person is perfect and expectations should never supersede reality. There are pitfalls to every relationship and the best way to combat them is by properly preparing for them beforehand. Whether this means talking about it openly with your potential significant other or just taking the time to really think it through—it can make or break a relationship before it’s even started.
All-in-all, potential new relationships can bring a sense of thrill and excitement to life and make us feel like growth is imminent. Take your eyes off the stars and see what is truly in front of you. Life can be confusing, but with these tips, you can make sure you’re making the right decision.
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