My partner has become emotionally distant and it’s starting to wreak havoc on our relationship. They appear to have shut down and are now unable to express the same level of affection that I was once familiar with. It feels like a brick wall has been placed between us, a barrier blocking any attempts to get them to open up. What used to be conversations free-flowing with compassion and understanding are now stifled, suffering from a lack of willingness or imagination to share feelings.
No matter how many hours I spend trying to figure out why my partner has become so distant, piecing together possible causes and solutions, nothing seems to unlock the doors of communication. So how do I restore the emotional connection with my partner? How do I draw out words of kindness or tenderness? Drawing on my own experiences, I have compiled some strategies for getting a partner to open up when they feel emotionally distant.
The first thing to understand is that everybody expresses and receives love differently. Some want closeness through physical contact such as hugs and cuddles, while others may prefer verbal affection and compliments. Take time to observe your partner and notice the things that make them feel content and loved. Then gently communicate to your partner what kind of emotional connection makes you feel most appreciated.
It’s equally important to ensure there’s adequate ‘room’ in the relationship where emotions can flow freely. No matter how close someone is to you, they won’t commit to a partnership if they feel like they are being smothered. Make sure to give your partner the freedom to have their own thoughts and opinions, away from judgement or criticism. Consider maintaining a healthy physical space between you, even when having a conversation—no touching or leaning on each other, rather let the words fill the empty vacuum.
Understand that sometimes all somebody needs is a safe space to talk. Being emotionally distant can simply mean your partner doesn’t feel like they can open up without fear of rejection or judgement. Ask your partner questions, connect through shared stories, and above all, strive for an atmosphere of acceptance and understanding. Sometimes just being present, without expectation, is the best form of love.
Finally, and most importantly, don’t forget to show yourself some care and respect. The journey back towards a more intimate connection with your partner can take time, but if you have patience, trust and a strong foundation it will eventually come. In the meantime, prioritise doing activities that bring you joy and fill you up with self-love, so that at least one person will, unequivocally, love themselves alongside you.
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