Our modern day world is fast-paced and ever-evolving, making it hard to keep track of the little details that make us feel more connected to one another. This can be especially true when it comes to romance. Though love is the same as it ever was, the way we express it, and the age at which we feel comfortable doing so, may look quite different than years before. That brings us to the pressure felt by many trying to figure out if they’re ready for their first kiss.
It's natural and normal to feel a bit nervous about kissing for the first time, no matter what age you are. This is an important moment, after all. The type of kiss you have won’t necessarily determine the future path of your relationship, but it can set the tone for how you approach similar moments to come. Taking too big a step can end up leading to a lack of intimacy and connection down the road, while taking too small steps can lead to feeling like you’re not fully expressing yourself, which can also be harmful. Finding the middle ground is key—kissing should be something both partners are comfortable with, regardless of experience.
However, when considering taking that first romantic step, there are more important factors to consider than just feeling comfortable. When deciding whether or not to have a first kiss, it’s also important to think about your motives and goals. Are you looking for a short-term hookup, or are you looking for something more meaningful over the long term? If it’s the latter, then it might be best to take things slow and save the physical part of the relationship until it is something both of you are sure you want.
Looking at your relationship from a realistic perspective can help. While it definitely feels nice to be caught up in emotion, it can also lead to making decisions that aren’t necessarily the best in the long run. Talk to each other, communicate your feelings and thoughts, and be honest about what you’re looking for. Establishing this clear understanding will definitely help when it comes time to make the decision about your first kiss.
If there’s one thing to remember, it’s that first kisses should be mutual and consensual. Even if you’re 13 and feel like you’re “supposed” to have your first kiss, don’t rush into it if it doesn’t feel right. And don’t let anyone else dictate when the time is right for you—it’s your relationship and no one else’s. As a society, we often assign age limits to certain milestones in life, but it’s ultimately up to you when it comes to making decisions about your body and your relationships.
Your first kissing experience should be something to look forward to, instead of dread. There is no right or wrong way to kiss, and it doesn’t matter if you get it right or wrong the first time. Kissing can be a beautiful thing when done with love, respect, and openness. The darkness of night falls slowly, while the warmth of starlight fills the sky, creating a timelessly tranquil atmosphere, perhaps not too dissimilar from the twinkling anticipation of a first kiss.
This is unchartered territory for many of us, but rest assured that there are no restrictions for our hearts, no ceilings for love, and no timeline that determines when the time for a first kiss is perfect.
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