You are a loving partner – understanding, kind and devoted to your significant other. At least that is what you thought of yourself and how your partner sees you – until your special someone reveals they’re struggling with a relentless addiction to pornography. You may find this admission overwhelming – the emotional turmoil of betrayal, anger and despair can be too much to bear. However, your partner needs your support now more than ever. Read further to learn how to deal with this situation in an empathetic and loving way.
It is important to confront these emotions head-on and face reality as it (unfortunately) is. Most likely, your partner has been dealing with this situation in secret and silently struggling with intense shame and confusion – being vulnerable enough to share it with you is a sign of immense trust. It is essential to validate those feelings and provide a safe environment where your loved one is encircled by your tenderness and care.
No matter how devastated you might be, do not condemn them for their addiction. While it is natural to feel a bitter disappointment, it is important to understand that your partner’s behaviour is an effect of an underlying deep issue and addiction itself is not a sign of moral inferiority. When negative thoughts start to creep in, focus on the fact that you are still there for them and make it clear that if they reach out for help, you will be there to offer complete unconditional support.
It is important to discuss the nature of the problem with your partner and understand the situation in detail – acknowledge the pain they are going through and ask how you can help. You must be mindful that assisting a person suffering from an addiction of any kind is a very arduous process – patience, sincerity, empathy and compassion are all necessary tools.
Although it may be difficult to accept, it is essential to remain non-judgmental and try to foster a sense of hope rather than fostering patterns of enabling. Acknowledge that this is a long road towards recovery and that treatment is the only viable solution. Research available resources and provide your beloved with resources such as counselling, therapy sessions or support groups that may help them break the cycle of addiction.
Finally, this situation requires time, effort and lots of dedication from both parties. Remember, your priority should be the well-being of your partner and it is paramount to show your unconditional love and affection in times of difficulty. Addiction is a psychological and physical problem – it is essential to remember that you and your partner are in this battle together. Use this time to reflect on the depths of your relationship and to prove a stable source of resilience despite the hardships you may face along the way.
Love is neither naive nor unconditional; it comes with conditions so let your special someone know that with your unwavering devotion, respect and faith, you can conquer this together.
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