I am not sure if I'm just being jealous or if I'm feeling genuine guilt from something I've done. I recently had an argument with my significant other...Last week, I got so frustrated during the argument that I ended up just walking away. Now I regret it, because my significant other hasn't been talking to me and he's sad. And I'm starting to feel like I am the one who caused it, even though I know it was both our faults.
It's sometimes hard to differentiate between jealousy and guilt, especially when they can individually cause a great amount of emotional distress. Jealousy is often defined as feeling uneasy or threatened by another person's success, achievements, or relationships--in your case, it could be feeling threatened by the argument that you had with your significant other. Guilt, on the other hand, is an emotion that suggests that you should be punished for an action you have taken, such as in this instance, walking away from the argument.
As you are obviously feeling some distress from the argument, it is important to determine whether this is actually jealousy or guilt that you are feeling. If you think it is jealousy, then the first step would be to evaluate the cause of the feeling: why are you feeling threatened by the argument? It is possible that this feeling may have come from a place of insecurity or it could have come from a long-standing issue that needs to be addressed in order to move forward in the relationship.
If, however, you think it is guilt you are feeling, then it is important for you to take responsibility for your actions and to apologize for any hurt that you may have caused. Even if you think the argument was both of your faults, it is still important to recognize the part you played in it and to seek out to resolve it. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to accept the blame for the entire argument, but it does mean that you need to take ownership of your own emotions and be willing to apologize for them.
Regardless of which emotion you are feeling, it is worth considering how the current argument ties into your overall relationship; is this a one-off event or is this something that consistently happens? It may be helpful to take a step back and assess the situation from a more objective perspective in order to determine whether this is something that can be fixed or if your relationship needs further work. It may also help to talk to a trusted friend or family member to gain their opinion on the matter.
It is important to remember that both jealousy and guilt can be incredibly difficult emotions to deal with. If it is helpful, it may be worthwhile seeing a professional who could provide you with the appropriate tools to help manage these emotions and to develop strategies for dealing with them in the future.
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