Love is rarely simple and straightforward. Our feelings and our minds can be in conflict and sometimes it can be difficult to read the signs our beloved one may offer us. When it comes to falling in love with a best friend, things can become even more complex, especially if you can’t tell whether this person feels the same or not.
It seems like you have strong feelings for your best friend and that’s why you have found yourself here, looking for experts’ advice. I totally understand how confusing and challenging it must feel for you—not knowing what to do, whether to express your feelings or keep quiet, afraid of ruining a friendship.
First of all, it’s worth considering if your friend knows these feelings you have for him/her. If so, deep down, you probably already know the answer – whether or not you can pursue a romantic relationship—you just don’t want to accept it. If you believe that your feelings are reciprocated – go ahead, take a leap of faith and share your emotions. However, if you’re unsure, it is wise to contemplate on what kind of outcome you want before even attempting to express them. Are you ready to face possible rejection? Is the risk worth it?
How you should proceed depends largely on what sort of relationship you want to prioritize: staying friends or finding true love. It’s undeniable that if you’re the only one having such feelings, it would be much easier to stay friends only, allowing each other to have different partners but remain close to each other as ever. This way, you will save your friendship but still have hope for something more in the future.
On the other hand, if you are willing to risk having a romantic relationship with your friend, there is no specific formula to ensure that everything will go as planned. Depending on the individual personalities, preferences and styles, you will want to adjust your approach accordingly.
Firstly, it is important to be aware that your feelings don’t have to change even if your relationship does. You will always be that person’s best friend but you can also start a romantic journey alongside that. Listen to yourself and to your friend carefully, allowing time for both of you to think everything through and come up with an answer which works for both of you. It is important to talk things through. Maybe start by talking first about the dynamics of your friendship and the beliefs you both have about love, than slowly make a path towards the topic of your mutual attraction. Keep an open-mind, remember your value and above all else – be honest but kind.
Good luck and hopefully this can bring you one step closer to having the opportunity to live out of a beautiful more-than-friends relationship with your best friend.
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