It may feel like you’re walking on broken glass when a relationship ends unexpectedly, leaving you in shambles even after it has been officially severed. It can be hard to process what exactly happened and why, and you may feel as if your entire world is crumbling around you. All the ballads about breakups and makeups may provide us with some perspective and motivational encouragement, but how do you actually make it through a seemingly impossible time after a breakup?
The initial shock of what has happened may leave you emotionally paralyzed and it may take days or weeks until you realize that it’s actually over. Denial may set in as the brain attempts to protect itself from the pain of the harsh reality. But even after the grief has passed, it can still be hard to move on and create a path forward. One thing to remember is that you should never be ashamed of your own emotions during this time; there are no right and wrong ways to cope with a breakup.
One of the best remedies is to focus on yourself. Take this moment to build strong relationships with your friends and family, rediscover your passions and newfound dreams by going out and exploring new things, and invest in yourself by developing new skills. Think of how you want to be spending your free time and prioritize activities that you enjoy. But don’t forget to treat yourself with love and care! Remind yourself that even though the situation may seem dark now, there will eventually come a silver lining down the road. Most importantly, never forget that you are resilient and that you can get through it.
Although it may seem helpful in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, it’s best to temporarily put away any reminders of the past relationship. This includes items such as photos, gifts, and physical reminders that can hit you with waves of emotion. You’ll likely have fond memories of your time together, but you must let go of the former relationship in order to let your future one-self flourish.
Support can also be critical in helping to heal, whether it’s listening ears through a friend, professional counseling, or engaging with other support groups. It’s crucial to express your inner workings and struggles in a safe environment where heathy outlets and guidance can help to lift you up. Talking through your experience and expressing it outwardly into the world can help to manifest closure, creativity, and productive expression through writing and art.
Lastly, don’t rush the recovery process. It’s okay to take as much time as you need, and to reach out for support when you need it. Every individual experiences their breakups differently and no two breakups are ever the same. Even if you had felt ready to move on years ago, you may still experience nostalgia, loneliness, and periodic bouts of sadness. Trust your body and mind to manage the process on its own, and know that you can rebound.
Breakups can leave you mentally and emotionally drained, and you may momentarily wonder if life and happiness can ever return. But when rebuilding yourself, remember to focus on the beautiful things you can experience in the future and be grateful for the blessings that you have today. Don’t despair– hope has a way of pulling us through the struggle and encouraging us to keep our chin up.
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