Dear eNotAlone: I am writing you today because I need help figuring out how to show my love for a person important in my life. I used to date this woman, and I know deep down she still loves me, but we have been apart for a few years now. We talk every now and again, but I'm afraid that if I come on too strong or tell her that I still love her, she'll just recoil from me and it will destroy any chance of us getting back together.
I don't want to rush things, so I'm wondering if there are any subtle, easy ways to show her that I love her without making things awkward between us? I fear that I'm running out of time, and I need to make sure she knows how I feel soon.
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The thoughts and feelings of love are often hard to comprehend let alone express when it comes to a former lover. You find yourself walking a fine line, striving for the balance between keeping your love alive and expressed, yet not taking it too far. After all, the last thing you want is scaring away someone so important to you!
Fortunately, there are easy and effective techniques for displaying your love for someone without risking your relationship with them. To begin to master this delicate practice of expressing emotions, start by exploring the following methods.
Often hearing words of love has a powerful impact on the human heart. If your partner recoils from your expressions during conversation, try sending tender love messages in a card or letter. Writing a letter allows your love to pour through the written words in a more intimate way. Have you ever heard of the idea of "love notes"? This age-old tactic allows you to slip a sweet, encouraging message into your partner's lunch box, briefcase, or somewhere they'll find it unusually.
If poignant words of love prove too difficult to express, allow little stories to speak off your behalf. Remember times you shared as a couple and recollect the stories with fondness. You could also inculcate tales of significance from other couples in your conversations. This can be a way of subtly bringing up your own story, and perhaps striving for an even better one.
Gifts sprinkled with meaning can be heartfelt and appreciated. Gifts that are symbolic of a connection you shared always touch the heart and sanctify a special bond. Consider giving something as simple as pencils that wore off together as well as together that reads "Inside joke explained: Pencils will wear off, but our love never will." All it takes is one thoughtful gift to make a loved one feel extra special.
Executing small gestures of kindness leaves an impression that lasts longer than an exchange of words. Unselfishly carrying out your partner's favorite activities count too! Whether it's attending their favorite restaurants, revisiting the places of your first date, or doing house chores while they relax – anything that conveys thoughtfulness goes a long way.
Your words, actions, gifts, and stories don't have to scream "I LOVE YOU!" to be heard and appreciated. After all these years, your dearly beloved may still know your heart, yet feel insecure about the separation. So, represent your affection in the most tender and subtle ways. Keep your intention pure and your love alive, and you both may just get a second chance to nurture the union you once had.
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