Dear eNotAlone: It all started several months ago. After an initially awkward beginning and careful treading, we realized there was something special in our friendship—an eternal connection if you will. Since then, as days advanced, our bond has only further strengthened, and today I'm standing at a crossroads.
She seems to have it all: the wit of a poet, the opinions of a sage, the heart of a saint, and the commitment of a soldier. She brings out the best in me, and I strive impetuously to make her beam with contentment.
On the surface, however, I'm presented with a bewildering dilemma. I am palpably drawn to her, yet I'm completely overwhelmed and exhausted by the thought of confessing my inner emotions. What if, in my utter confusion, I drown in her overwhelming beauty, spoiling the delicate balance between us? I fear that if I admit even one spark of emotion, the door to unbridled affection may be opened, possibly ruining our treasured camaraderie.
My naivety of such matters makes it almost impossible to determine what is right. As a result, I've come to a deadlock – or perhaps a burgeoning new beginning – not knowing which path to choose. With my heart at stake, it is this difficult decision that I need help with.
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I understand your perplexity about the confusing situation that lies before you when it comes to this person. Realizing that the connection between you two is special, you now have a difficult decision to make.
It is understandable that you worry about disclosing your hidden emotions, as you are not certain of the reaction you will get in return. But if you truly feel strongly towards her, then it may be worth taking a risk and being honest. Your fear of destruction of the delicate bond between the two may turn into something really beautiful if she too feels a similar connection. Take things slowly and softly approach her feelings, walking together on the journey to expressively explore the possibilities between you.
In any case, it is important that you make this choice based on your own authentic truth. Remember, whatever decision you make, even if it is scary and you doubt it, trusting your own instincts can help you make the right one. In order to best decide, think deeply through how your life would be if you followed each path available to you. Would you rather sacrifice a friendship or first see if it could blossom into a more powerful relationship? Hanging onto both possibilities until you can make sense of them in your mind can also help you restore some clarity to the situation.
I understand that this is an intimidating decision, and it is not easy especially if you're pondering over it for a while now. Above all, keep in mind that settling your hesitation is a gradual process. You may never know what could happen until you act upon it, so trust that your intuition will guide you in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck with your decision.
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