When two people are in a relationship, there are many highs and lows as both partners learn more about each other and themselves. But if one partner starts to feel as though the flame of love and passion is slowly extinguishing, it can feel overwhelming – especially if you are willing to fight for the relationship. If your girlfriend no longer loves you, you may feel the pang of heartache and sadness, yet knowing how to approach the situation and ask yourself what is truly going on is paramount to take the proper steps forward.
Finding the root cause of her lack of love is essential to regaining the spark between you and your girlfriend. Is it a result of stress or exhaustion? Or perhaps she lost that loving feeling after too much fighting and bickering? Instead of allowing the situation to escalate, gently probe her to get to the root of the matter. Allow her to freely express her thoughts and feelings honestly, but remember that you do not have to accept negativity or criticism. Acknowledge her thoughts, validate her feelings and create a discussion that can help both of you reach a resolution.
No matter the cause of a fading relationship, taking intentional steps towards rekindling the fire is the only way to keep moving forward. Getting back together can be uncomfortable at first. Initiating a new activity together that you both enjoy can help reignite meaningful conversations as you both grow closer together. Exercise has been shown to greatly increase serotonin and dopamine levels in the body which drives feelings of joy and happiness. A change of scenery can help influence positive vibes too; go on a hike, take a drive to a nearby park and explore – this can stimulate real conversations and provide a breath of fresh air for both of you.
Your relationship won’t be completely restored overnight – either of you may need time alone to reflect and make sense of your inner thoughts and emotions – so patience and understanding are key to progress. Don’t rush into heightened emotions or arguments, but rather take that time to talk and process. If a full-on conversation isn’t possible or welcomed, then small gestures like little gifts, surprise visits or thoughtful cards can let your girlfriend know that you still care.
Most importantly, joy needs to come from within to set your relationship on the right path again. Express love in the most meaningful way by allowing your girlfriend to see the inside of your soul – identify your core values, wishes and dreams and share them with her. Communicate openly why you want for the two of you to work, as well as any solutions that you think could help improve the situation. And if neither of your strategies appear to be working, consult with a licensed therapist together to help guide you through the journey of restore love in your relationship.
Just like a fire needs oxygen to continue burning, nourish your relationship with actionable and tangible steps to keep your flame alive. Talk openly, lovingly and honestly, laugh often and give acceptance when needed – these are integral components of restoring a relationship so that you both can live the life filled with joy, passion and love.
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