Most people go through the rocky roads of a breakup during their lives at least once. Ending a relationship that you once held in your heart can be an incredibly heart-wrenching and emotionally challenging experience, but it's an inevitability, even in the best of times. As difficult as it can be, being on the receiving end of a breakup after three long years together is no less painful than ending a shorter one. When your girlfriend of three years decides that she no longer loves you, what do you do?
Before enacting any drastic life changes, it's important to take time for yourself to process the news. Feeling sad is completely understandable, and in the days, weeks, or months following the revelation, it's essential to give yourself permission to grieve. Allow yourself to cry and feel the emotions that come up. Don't place blame on either party or rush the process—it's about allowing yourself to mourn for this individual who was such a big part of your life.
When you're eventually ready, find ways to nourish your body and care for yourself, however that looks like for you. It could be going on runs to clear your head, going out with friends, or even treating yourself to a massage. Beyond this, going to therapy, support groups, or peer counselling can be beneficial.
Part of accepting the situation means letting go of the relationship and any plans you had with this person. Although it's easier said than done, come to terms with the fact that no matter how much time, energy, or effort you put into this relationship, sometimes two people end up not being compatible or in love anymore. Be kind to yourself, and rather than beating yourself up, try to stay in the present moment and shift your thoughts back to today.
Find motivation in those around you. Use the newfound freedom of being single as the opportunity to explore what makes you happy and check in on old dreams that may have been forgotten in the past. You could also gain inspiration from your everyday surroundings. Experiencing moments of beauty can help to restore equilibrium in moments of grief. Afterall, life always offers another sunrise with its own promise.
Open your heart to new possibilities by taking risks, making connections, and claiming space. Although the impact of the breakup may still remain, be brave enough to have faith in yourself, your strength, and the idea that you will find happiness again. The right person may not appear right away, but it's within you to create a fulfilling life without them.
It's okay if the pain takes some time to pass, but be sure to remind yourself of your worth throughout the process. In its own way, the emptiness left in the wake of something lost can create space for something infinitely better.
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