It is a truly painful experience when one losses the love of their first relationship. Feelings such as helplessness, confusion, numbness and anger are normal reactions to such an event. Regardless of whether it was expected or unexpected, the impact it has can linger for some time.
The task first ahead is to understand that no matter life throws at us, we have the strength to cope. Even though you may feel there's no way forward, it's important to believe that there is a way out of the situation and realize that the pain will eventually pass. You may even find that loss can help you grow in ways you never thought possible.
This realization may take some time. Try not to worry too much if this process takes a few months. Take it one step at a time - each day you are one day closer to finding a way to keeping going in life and becoming a better version of yourself. Reach out to family, friends and a mental health specialist, who can provide essential support during those difficult times.
One proficient way to cope with the loss of your first love is to utilize your emotions in a healthy manner. Writing can be a therapeutic and helpful tool, as you expresses the sadness in a non-destructive and private way. It does not necessarily has to make sense. This process can help you to process your feelings as well as understand your emotions more accurately.
Another method which could help achieving closure is participating in activities that bring joy to your heart. For instance, engaging in hobbies you have always enjoyed or trying out new ones could help you put all that energy elsewhere than the sadness. Activities such as exercising and volunteering can also help by allowing you to obtain strong support system who guide and remind you that barriers can be broken, no matter how long they may take.
Finally, it is hard to accept that things don't always go the way you want them to. Allowing yourself to face the fact that there is a possibility that something you wished would happen ends up not being able to be will help you on the road of learning to live with it. Keeping realistic expectations of how you think a situation should turn out can be very helpful, allowing you to enjoy the time you have, rather than desperately clinging to something which is not meant to be.
The loss of someone after a break up can be detrimental yet ultimately, it can be the start of a healthier approach to relationships, if honored in the right way. Remaining open and honest about your feelings and thoughts is essential to ensure rectifying the situation does not occur again in the future. Remember to take as much time as necessary in order for the healing process to come naturally, as you grow and learn from the experience; something which will give you strength and resilience in the future regardless of whom comes into your life.
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