Ending a great relationship can be one of the most painful experiences ever. The lingering sorrow, confusion over the why and emptiness at realizing that something you cherished has come to an end can be overwhelming. Even more difficult sometimes is seeing the good times and reflecting on the positive aspects of the relationship, when those moments don’t seem to offer any comfort anymore.
No matter how hard the situation is, there are some specific steps allowing you to find peace and strength to begin your journey of healing and moving forward.
First, it is important to be kind to yourself. Accepting the fact that the relationship has ended, and understanding that it is natural to feel pain and sadness, is the first step. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t strive to move on but acknowledging what happened can provide an opportunity to take a break and allow yourself to feel all your emotions fully. If that doesn’t help, speaking to a professional or a person you trust can be beneficial.
The second step is to be on the lookout for signs of self-doubt. Ending a great relationship can lead to questioning even the small things and feeling insecure. Try to focus on the positive qualities that shaped the start of the relationship and have helped you through tough times in the past. These will contribute to your opportunities for growth in a healthy way.
It is easy to imagine that you need to work through the pain of the ending on your own, but seeking support from those who love and care about you can be greatly beneficial. They can help you with constructive criticism, boosting your self-confidence, offering uplifting words and simply being there for you.
Next step on the way to healing after a great relationship is finding a way to rationalize the situation. Again, it requires acceptance of what happened. Journaling, meditating and being open to reframing the story can be helpful. It is natural for our minds to linger on the mysteries behind the end of the relationship, but try to understand that some questions will remain unanswered. Investing time in grieving and coming to terms with the most difficult realization that everything has its own cycle - including relationships - can provide freedom from searching for the “why” and direct the focus towards personal growth.
Finally, developing new hobbies or rekindling old ones can also be a part of healing process. Playing an instrument, painting, going on outdoor walks or engaging in mindfulness activities can not only transition the mind away from thoughts of the past partner but also provide an opportunity to re-discover yourself.
After a great relationship, the road ahead may be bumpy, dark and uncertain. But remembering to be kind to yourself, reach out for support and stay open to the conversations you have with yourself can create small sparks of light helping you cross over to the other side and show whose on board the ship of personal growth.
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