What is it like when someone scorns you? It can feel like a burst of hot anger and cold despair, simultaneously. It’s perplexing, because it permanently changes the way you see yourself.
When I was scorned, my world was split in two. There was a stormy night sky of sharp pain on one side and a warm glowing horizon of a future without that pain on the other. I forgot who I was and what I wanted, because I thought it had all been taken away.
In reality, neither of those realities were true or deserved. I hadn’t been split in two or lost who I was and what I wanted. Instead, I was standing in the middle of a tall mountain range with a rocky path before me. The stormy nightsky represented how I felt, and the horizon was how I could feel if I had the will and tools to ascend the mountain. The mountain was a metaphor for the process of healing my wounds and moving forward.
My journey to healing was without a roadmap. I was scared, but I knew I had to bravely stare into the sun. I had to face my difficulties instead of running away from them or distracting myself with instant gratification.
That meant learning unconditional self-forgiveness. Letting go of expectations of others that would never be met. Releasing judgment, particularly of oneself. Rekindling my commitment to the pursuit of greater understanding and connection.
Facing these realizations forced me to concentrate on developing resilience and uncovering inner strength. I dug into the depths of my heart to unlock new levels of emotional intelligence and response.
One wild moment at a time, one beautiful lesson at a time, and I grew more comfortable with the uncertain. I allowed myself to make mistakes and to forgive myself for them. I learned to express gratitude for what I had instead of resenting that I no longer had the comfortable finality of an unquestioned perception of the world.
This journey wasn’t easy, but it was satisfying in the way of things only facing one’s fears can be. When I reached the peak of the mountain, what I saw was a new beginning full of unexpected beauty, insight and challenge.
The path to healing and moving forward after being scorned is not an easy one, but it is one worth taking. You must have the courage to look into the sun and trust in the strength you have within. Take what you have learned and turn it into a map for the journey ahead.
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