Are you struggling to move on from memories of an old friend? Moving on from the past can be hard, especially when it feels like the memories hold on so tightly. The difficulty can become compounded if memories come in waves, washing over you unexpectedly and carrying away with recollections that would be best left buried. But it is possible to find a way through, no matter how narrow the passage may appear.
First and foremost, it isn’t easy; this journey requires patience, thoughtfulness and ultimately, courage. When somebody takes a step towards coming to terms with the fact that they are ready to let go of old memories, they can feel like they are standing on edge, in a place of uncertainty. But just like the sea – even the most powerful of waves eventually crashes onto the shore and is absorbed into the sand.
The memories of certain people, whether old friends or otherwise, can leave an imprint. This may not be a physical reminder but rather something much deeper; a part of us that resonates with the experiences we shared in the past, both good and bad. It is therefore important to remember the lessons learnt, and understand why and how we arrived where we are today.
Things change, as we all do when we go through our life. Recognizing this is important and accepting it goes hand in hand. With that recognition, it is necessary to consider the changes which have been made, the reason for them, and why the changes were necessary. Remembering the obvious – at some point in the past, something drew the two of you together, but by taking the time to evaluate, one may also see the signs that led them away.
Although we are often cognitively aware of these changes and the directions our paths have taken, it is equally important to connect emotionally with the reasons why and what these changes mean. This phase can be difficult as it can often trigger deep-rooted feelings, but it is vital for the liberation of any lingering emotion attached to the memory of the old friend in question.
It helps to take comfort in knowing that no emotion is permanent. No matter how intense the feelings, be that pain, anger, sadness or love – it will eventually dissipate, leaving space to inhabit a new reality. The power and beauty of these emotions exists in the knowledge that they are temporary and hopefully, in time, can be replaced with the warm strength of a fresh perspective.
Going further, the release of these emotions can assist the process of moving on by granting the individual in question a level of emotional control. For example, if times where fond memories of the old friend might resurface, the individual’s understanding of the situation could be changed. Instead, the recollection of what was shared could draw strength and security, enabling the person to acknowledge the past but also carry on with confidence and conviction.
Finally, although it might seem impossible, one must keep trying; if progress means walking forward, each step counts. This can be true for moving on from memories of an old friend, even if it feels as though nothing ever changes. Each day, it is only natural to allow yourself to slip back and take a moment to process what has been. To try, once more, to understand the feelings and make sense of the life lived, with all its ups and downs. It is perfectly normal to want to pause for a brief span of time, before turning around and taking the next step forward.
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