The dream is gone, and so is the years of work and dedication it took to get here. Eight long years have been put into this aspiration, and now it's all gone. Poof. With nothing to show for it, this loss can be devastating - so how to recover and move on?
It isn't easy - but learning to let go is part of any growth. It's difficult to accept such a failure and come to terms with two’s capabilities, or lack thereof, but that doesn't mean those goals were unachievable or the years wasted. Wake up each day with a heart open and willing to step again into the unknown. Even if it's not what one had envisioned, or what their dream was, something new could open up even more possibilities.
Acknowledge the pain. It's expected to feel hurt and empty following such a deep defeat. Sometimes it helps to talk about it, to vent, even if it's just to yourself. Consider writing out thoughts, sad and angry ones alike, to help process the emotion. This doesn't mean giving up - it simply helps to process. The emotions will eventually subside.
Recalibrate expectations by rebooting the process and start to focus on the future. Force oneself to think, and act, differently. Habits and patterns must be broken, opinions challenged, and expand one's support system. There are opportunities still within reach, and it’s important to keep searching. If they don't materialize quickly, accept there will be moments of doubt and discomfort along the way. Allow change to come in and blossoms anew.
Find peace of mind again by turning inward. Handle grief and sadness by having faith in oneself. We must all recognize our individual power and stay true to who we are and the path we dream of. Take the time to address unresolved feelings and take comfort in small wins. Don't push away moments or feelings of success or joy when they come. With patience, your heart will mend again.
Don’t be hard on oneself as life is never just a straight line. Unexpected events are inevitable - and accepting them as part of a larger plan is key to finding balance and recalibrated expectations. Only then is one ready to move on and work towards a new type of joy.
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