As the canvas of the evening sky fades to black, the stars start to reveal themselves, their radiant glow piercing the night. It's a majestic sight, an inspiration for poets and romantics alike. However, when bitterness and anger shroud our hearts, akin to a thick cloud cover, our inner radiance can't pierce through, leaving us in a perpetual state of nightfall. This article is for all women who feel that life, or men, have done them an injustice, whose inner stars are shrouded, and who want to break free from the iron grip of negative emotions to become the irresistible heroines of their own life stories.
Have you ever noticed how certain women seem to lose their warmth and gentleness over time, their demeanor becoming as stern and thin as the ice on a winter lake? They appear weary, almost as if their youthful zest and feminine allure have been extracted with an invisible straw. Such women often harbor a serious outlook towards every aspect of life and frequently fall into the trap of caustic humor and gripe-filled discussions.
The root of this hard and bitter attitude usually lies in the repression of anger. It's a common societal narrative that labels anger as 'bad' or 'unladylike,' causing many women to avoid experiencing it. Instead, they suppress it, hoping it would vanish or at least remain unseen. However, suppression is not an escape. It's a form of resistance, and as the saying goes, 'what you resist persists.' In fact, it grows stronger. The inevitable outcome of repressed anger is a hardened and embittered perspective on life.
But here's the silver lining. You don't require years of therapy or anger management classes to release your repressed anger. You can learn to acknowledge and experience your anger when it emerges. Noticing it, experiencing it, and letting it be, allows it to pass. If you've been bottling up your anger for a long time, the initial experiences of allowing yourself to feel it may be overwhelming. You might find yourself on the verge of a significant overreaction to seemingly minor incidents, such as your partner leaving a towel on the floor. But this isn't a sign that you're losing control. Instead, it's an indication of old, repressed anger—perhaps dating back to childhood—finally surfacing.
You don't need to erupt into a fiery confrontation each time this happens. Instead, if the situation permits, express your feelings and address the issue. If not, simply experience the sensation of anger and then continue with your day.
At this point, you might be wondering, "What's the solution to this bitterness that has taken root?" The answer is simple yet profound—lighten up. If you believe that you've been wronged by life or by men, you've unintentionally cast yourself in the role of the victim. It's time to audition for a new role. How about the protagonist, the shining star, the leading lady in the grand drama of your life? That sounds much more appealing, doesn't it?
No one is irresistibly attracted to victims. You can either be an irresistible force of positive energy or a hardened victim of circumstances. The power to choose lies in your hands.
The path to becoming the star of your life involves recognizing and allowing your anger, not suppressing it. You must let the old, pent-up anger surface and dissipate, freeing yourself from its icy grip. Transform your perspective from being a victim to becoming the protagonist, the one in control. It's time to break through the cloud cover of negative emotions and let your inner star shine brightly for all to see.
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