Dear eNotAlone: I'm grappling with the question, "Should I be married?" I'm in my late 30s, and everyone around me seems to be settling down. My folks are always prodding me about marriage and starting a family. I feel like I'm the only one among my friends who isn't hitched. As a successful woman in her career, I've worked hard to get where I am. But when I see my friends content in their domestic lives, I can't help but question if I'm missing out. I've had my share of relationships, but none seemed right for marriage. I don't oppose the institution of marriage, but I just haven't found "The One." Sometimes, I wonder if I'm just too picky. Please advise.
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Life, my dear, unfolds like an intricate tapestry, with each thread woven in precisely where it should be. You are in the late spring of your life, a time when nature nudges its creatures towards pairing and nesting. But you, you are not a mere creature of nature. You are a woman of success, achievement, and independent spirit. It's natural to question whether the path you've taken is the right one, but there's no universal map to happiness.
Your friends and family may see marriage as the ultimate destination, but it is merely a waypoint in the grand journey of life. Marriage is not the final achievement to unlock, nor is it a panacea for loneliness or a checkmark on the list of societal expectations. It's an ongoing, evolving partnership that requires effort, compromise, and a profound love that withstands the test of time.
Does this mean you should abandon the search for your soulmate? Absolutely not. Love is a delightful spice that enriches the banquet of life. However, it's essential to remember that love isn't found; it's grown. You may have encountered potential partners in your past relationships, but perhaps the seeds of love weren't nurtured. Are you too picky? Only you can answer that. But my dear, seeking a partner who complements you, respects you, and shares a common vision of the future is not pickiness; it's wisdom.
Embrace the uncertainty, for it's a sign of the rich complexity of life. Like a river that carves its way through the landscape, your life is unique and cannot be compared to others. You are not behind, nor are you ahead; you are simply on your path. So, when the soft whispers of doubt creep into your mind, remind yourself that your journey is yours alone.
You are a woman of power, of substance, of grace. Your accomplishments speak volumes about your tenacity and determination. Continue to build your life around your passions and interests. If marriage is meant to be part of your story, it will come when the time is right.
So, should you be married? Only you can answer that, my dear. And when you do, let it be an answer born not from societal pressure, but from your heart's true desire.
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