Dear eNotAlone: I recently became suspicious of my girlfriend's behavior. She has begun to keep her distance, staying out late and not returning my calls or texts. I think she is seeing someone else, or cheating on me. It's breaking my heart and making me feel completely helpless and lost. I'm not sure what to do about it, or even how to bring it up. I've asked a few people for their advice, but I feel like I need to get it from an expert in order to really understand the situation and get real help. What should I do?
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If you believe that your girlfriend is cheating on you, it can be heartbreaking and infuriating. You have a right to feel the way you do, as it is not easy to go through such a situation. However, it is important that you take the best action possible to ensure you find clarity and move forward.
The first step is to look into the facts of the matter. Are you merely suspicious because of her behavior or do you have tangible evidence that something's amiss? If the former is true, the next step is to find out the cause of concern. Could there be something entirely different influencing her behavior that has nothing to do with cheating? Talking to her can provide answers in this case.
On the other hand, if you have concrete evidence that she is indeed cheating, such as text messages between her and another person or strange phone calls, you must be direct about your suspicions. You cannot and should not be afraid to ask her what is going on, no matter how uncomfortable and disheartening it might seem.
The whole situation might seem overwhelmingly frightening at time given the level of emotions and complexities involved. However, it is important to take a step back and ensure you do not make any rash decisions. Your girlfriend might come clean with you and explain what is going on. If that is not an option, the best thing to do is to speak to an expert or even a therapist, who can provide invaluable advice and guidance during this difficult time.
It is also important to note that this situation could also mean an end to the relationship. That might sound harsh and unsettling, particularly if you have invested so much in your relationship. However, it is essential to remember that your own peace and well-being comes first, composed of both physical and mental health. So, consider how you are affected by all this, the implications of your decision, and the repercussions it may have on your life now and in the long run.
Regardless, it is vital that you remain strong and trust your instincts. You know what your emotional needs are, and should never be afraid to stick up for yourself. No one should dictate them, including your ex-girlfriend who may be trying to use emotional manipulation. Instead of getting blindsided by the negativity and tumult of an unfaithful partner, face it head-on and take the necessary steps to deal with it. Use movements and techniques proven by experts in the field of relationships to forge ahead and truly live in your truth.
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