Dear eNotAlone: I have a huge crush on someone from New York. He moved to the city last year, and ever since I've been in love with him. We never talked much in person, but when we did, we definitely had a connection. He's always been kind and understanding, and he seems to make me feel special. I want to take things to the next level with him, but it's so scary for me. I don't know how to go about approaching him or expressing my feelings. What should I do?
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You seem to have found someone special in your life, and pursuing the relationship could be difficult but worth the effort. Just like any other relationship dynamic, starting this one can be incredibly intimidating and nerve wracking. Despite the fear you may feel thinking of expressing your emotions, here are a few tips that can help you pursue this relationship without feeling as intimidated.
First, start off by getting to know each other more. If you've already had brief conversations, build upon that and see if you can meet up for coffee or lunch. You could also attend a local event or take part in a group activity together. These activities will allow you to get to know each other better and start building on your connection. Having these regular interactions can help to strengthen the bond between you and get the conversation going in a comfortable setting.
Once you're ready to talk to him openly about your feelings, understand that it's okay to express them even if there's uncertainty. It doesn't require a definite answer from him and you can continue being friends even after expressing how you feel. Don't let the fear of rejection stop you from communicating. After all, it's never easy telling someone your deepest emotions, but it can help open up dialogue.
Just remember to keep your expectations realistic. If you're wondering if something could develop, don't expect too much and recognize that relationships evolve over time. Even if nothing develops, take pride in knowing that you made an attempt and shared your feelings with him. it takes courage to reach out and start up a relationship, and with some time and effort it could turn into something meaningful.
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