Let’s face it – most of us have had to or will have to work with an ex at some point in our careers. Whether you used to be married, in a long term relationship, or just dated casually, seeing the face of during the nine-to-five is inevitable for most people. And let’s also face it, it isn’t always easy – it can be downright awkward, even painful in some cases. But no matter how difficult it may be, it’s important to try and maintain professional when having to work with your former partner. To make it easier, here are five strategies on how to manage the awkwardness while still maintaining professionalism in the workplace.
The first strategy is learn to make small talk as professionals. Even though it can be difficult, it's important to treat your ex like any other coworker, with respect and courtesy. Have some simple icebreakers ready such as inquiring about their weekend, any upcoming plans, or safe topics relative to work projects. Though it may be complicated, try to establish a neutral relationship both of you can be comfortable with.
Second, create polite boundaries. While you might have been intimate in the past, you can set boundaries that both parties can find respectful. Avoid topics such as discussing intimate details of you past relationship, stay away from physical contact, and don’t linger for longer than necessary.
Third on our list, find an ally. At some point, you may feel tempted to talk about the situation with coworkers. If possible, find someone you mutually trust who can help navigate the difficult situation. Talk to them about strategies to maintain professionalism and awkwardness.
Fourth, focus on quality work. The best way to demonstrate your value to the organization is by focusing on the quality of your work. Complete tasks and projects to the best of your abilities and do your best to keep gossip away. Also, communicate clearly on professional platforms, such as emails.
And lastly, don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you find yourself struggling and unable to cope, you should seek resources and support such as counselling or a meditation app. Don't be afraid to admit the situation is hard and get help from a third party.
Working with an ex can be a challenge, but it doesn’t have to impossible. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation, but also recognize that you can take measures to ensure you not only manage the awkwardness but also maintain professionalism. Set boundaries, focus on your work, and don’t be afraid to seek help if needed. Let fear of being uncomfortable in the workplace not prevent either of you from job success.
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