Dear eNotAlone, I have an absolutely perplexing problem that I am hoping you can shed some light on. To say I'm feeling lost and confused is an understatement.
It all started when my boyfriend of seven months and I decided we just weren't compatible anymore. We thought it better to move apart than to stay together in an unhappy situation. It didn't take long for me to start really regretting my decision and missing him so much. But I was determined to make things work on my own, so I buried my feelings and tried to move forward.
Life looked good. I was busy with work and had a lot of new friends. At the same time, however, I couldn't get over how much I still loved my ex-boyfriend and thought about him constantly. The idea of being without him was such a hollowing thought and every smile and laugh he shared felt like a thousand knives! I hated being apart from him yet I felt like I would never feel happy again if I was with him.
So, here I am now, stuck between a rock and a hard place feeling completely and utterly helpless. What should I do? Should I forget about my ex-boyfriend and try to move on, or should I reach out to him and try to give our relationship another chance?
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Breakups are always a difficult and painful experience, and it sounds like you're going through that pain right now. It's understandable why you feel so confused and uncertain of what to do next; the feelings of love and longing that come with ending a relationship are strong, and it's normal to feel conflicted about whether it's best to try and reconcile with your ex or move on.
My advice is to take the time you need to truly process your emotions and the situation. It may be hard, but try not to dwell too much on what could have been and instead take some space to think honestly about what you want, who you are, and what matters most to you in life. You can also consider talking to a friend or family member you trust who can provide impartial advice.
What it ultimately comes down to, however, is whether you are ready to put in the effort and energy needed to reconcile with your ex-boyfriend. If you feel like you could give the relationship a fresh start, then you can reach out and share your feelings. But if you don't feel like you can give your relationship the attention it deserves, then it might be best to focus on yourself and move forward. Take your time and don't rush any decisions. You don't have to come to any conclusions tonight; take the time to really think about what is best for you.
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