Nothing is more painful than a deep and lasting heartbreak. It can feel like the end of the world and it’s difficult to imagine how one could ever move on from such a experience.
Love can look down upon us from many different places. It might be in the act that our parents do every morning or the way our siblings treat each other. That’s why many people fail to realize that love is not always kind or heavenly. The sting of a heartbreak can set off powerful surges of emotion, and few are immune to the withering effect that a breakup can have on our self-esteem.
For those who find themselves at a crossroads, feeling lost and uncertain of what’s next, there is hope. It may seem daunting at first - moving forward with life after a painful separation - but that doesn't mean it’s impossible.
The first step is understanding your feelings. Do not try to deny or ignore these emotions, as they will stay buried inside you until you’re ready to acknowledge them. Embrace the reality of your loss - your relationship isn’t coming back and it’s time to accept and process what has happened. Let go of the resentment and hurt and make peace with your past. This will not only benefit you, but also allow you to move on to healthier and happier relationships in the future.
Now comes the hard part: expressing your emotions in a healthy way. For many men, this is easier said than done. Society doesn’t often encourage men to cry or even talk about their feelings in an open and honest manner. That’s why it’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel vulnerable, to be scared, and to acknowledge the overwhelming sadness that follows a breakup.
Take the time to grieve. Allow yourself to heal at your own pace. Don’t worry, you won’t get stuck in this state forever. Eventually, you’ll come out stronger and ready to start anew. Engage in activities that make you happy - socialize, go out with friends, take up a new hobby - and try to focus on you and your needs. Connecting with nature, exercising, or even simply restful moments of solitude can help you cope and let go of the tension.
It’s essential to surround yourself with positive influences during this time. Support and understanding from friends and family can provide motivation and give you the strength to keep going. Look to the good people in your life who will be there to console you when you feel down. Rely on those who can help you work through your issues and talk through solutions.
At last, love again—but be gentle to your heart. Rome was not built in a day, so don’t expect to find the perfect love overnight. Everyone heals and loves differently, and as you rebuild, take time to understand what makes you truly happy. Consider dating, but go slowly and pick someone who isn’t a clone of your ex. Avoid comparing, bursting out in fits of rage, or overthinking and instead listen to yourself. By doing this you’ll know when and how you want to love again.
Heartbreaks are difficult. We’ve all gone through it. The key message is that whatever happens, it does get better. You don’t have to bury the hurt or stay stranded. Just heed the advice and say to yourself “I can go through this and I will come out of it a better person.” Take it one day at a time and before you know it, you’ll no longer be weighed down by the pain and sorrow.
Putting your joy and well-being above all else is paramount. Once you’ve made it to that point, you know that nothing can bring you down - not even a broken heart.
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