I am having a truly hard time trying to figure out if my ex-boyfriend has moved on and if he's happier since the breakup. We had dated for 2 years but things started to cool down towards the end of last year. I eventually ended things in February after an argument. Since then he hasn't reached out to me at all, not even a text or birthday wish. While we were together, he was my closest confidant and friend. It felt like I could tell him anything and rely on him whenever tough times crossed my path. He also introduced me to his family and, in general, he was everything I ever wanted in a partner.
We had plans for a possible future together, but after two months since our split he posted on social media about a girl he apparently knew from university. Even though the messages seemed to be platonic, I still can't help but look into it and investigate further. I don't want to bother his friends and family, so I'm not sure what to do. Have I lost him entirely? Is he happy now that I'm out of his life? I'm desperate for some advice.
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It sounds like you are going through an emotionally tough period and it is completely understandable why you feel the need to evaluate your ex-boyfriend's current situation. Firstly, let me start off by saying that it is hard to determine the exact reasoning behind someone's post in a single instance without any additional context. Social media platforms are often used to make overarching and occasionally vague statements, and as such it may be difficult to accurately interpreted what is really being conveyed.
It is also important to remember that a person's happiness is not determined by whether they stay with someone or not. It is often something that comes with time and self-reflection, as well as learning and growing from experiences. That being said, it is likely your ex-boyfriend is finding his own ways of overcoming the feelings of loneliness and hurt associated with break-ups. As confident as he may (or may not) be in himself, it is about recovery and energy management for him too.
That being said, you know yourself best and how you feel. If you wish to get some answers about how your ex is feeling then it wouldn't be unreasonable to reach out to mutual friends or even to him directly, depending on what is best for you and your relationship. If you choose to reach out, then try to establish a neutral platform in order to have more productive conversations without any assumptions. Of course, the key question is whether this will actually bring you the closure you seek.
Whether your former partner is really happy or not depends on his personal circumstances beyond just social media posts. Everyone deals with break-ups differently and, only you have the freedom to discover happiness away from your ex. Knowing that you have your own resolve and strength to pick yourself up is paramount and should be something you invest in moving forward.
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