They say breaking up is hard to do, and it’s true. When a relationship ends, it can cause a perforation in one’s heart, like a hole in the ground letting air rush out after a balloon has been popped. Nobody likes dealing with a broken heart, but there are ways of managing the pain and coming out on the other side.
When a relationship comes to an end it can be difficult to understand and emotionally process the hurt and heartache that proceeds it. It may be helpful to look at all the various elements that led to the separation, thus understanding that all breakups take time to heal. For example, if the relationship ended because your partner cheated, you may need to identify at least some of what caused the breach in trust, so you can have closure and allow yourself to move on with your life.
Furthermore, you may want to think about how to undo the bond you had with him or her. It’s important to get some distance from the situation and to put all the items away that remind you of your former partner. This can be complicated if they were present in photographs or social media, but over time these effects will subside as you give yourself the space to grieve and let go.
Speaking of grief, the next step is accepting that it is ok to feel and release the feelings related to heartbreak. Move through the process at your own pace and don’t be afraid to use whatever outlets are best for you to express your emotions, whether that’s talking, writing, or art. Additionally, consider seeking out professional counseling if needed, just to have someone else to talk to who is removed from the situation. However, it is vitally important to also look for signs of depression and if any are observed, a healthcare professional should be contacted immediately.
Finally, it’s ok to lean on your friends and family for help. Once you start thinking of your long-term goals that you may have set in terms of hobbies, career, education, and relationships, focus on those as potential paths to happiness. These dreams will begin to fill the void left by the breakup more constructively and help you gradually move forward. Also, think positively about yourself and your own worthiness, rather than wallow in self-pity. After all, break ups are part of being human; everybody has gone through something comparable.
Once you fully accept the concept of a breakup and strive to move on with your life alone, you can begin to heal your shattered heart and find love again. Though the process of getting over a break-up may be daunting, it’s possible to come out on the other side as a self-assured person with a renewed sense of hope in the future.
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